Stop Being Insecure. It’s Selfish.

Originally published November 28, 2021

The voice of fear says to me:

What if I’m not good enough?

What if I change my view on something after publicly stating the contrary?

Family members, people I know from high school, strangers – will all be able to judge me.

What if I look unprofessional?

What if I lose the motivation and others will see that I’ve failed?

Who the hell do I even think I am?

What I actually know to be true:

Others don’t care. They are busy thinking about themselves, worrying about their own issues. Battling the exact same fears in the context of their own lives. In reality, there is no them! (a powerful thought from a book I can’t remember now)

Feeling insecure and playing small in relation to what I want to create is not what I came here to do. No matter how “big” or “small” I think what I’m doing is.

What I’m come to accept, is that fear is the voice of the devil. Fear often coats itself in the blanket of ‘safety’ and voice of reason, but truly, what it is trying to convince us of, is that we are incapable and undeserving. Fear aims to make us accept the idea that striving for something better, going after our vision isn’t worthwhile.

But this is not the truth I feel in my heart. This is not the direction I want to move towards or an attitude I wish to cultivate in my life. Of course, it’s okay to feel fear, to be afraid. It is normal – it’s what to be expected. But we should not act from that place, make decisions based on the stories fear speaks to us.

I’ve come to realize, that ultimately, there’s only two voices you can listen to; fear (or voice of devil) or love (which can also be referred to as your higher self, a higher power, God…). Which of these voices, these sources of inspiration do you choose to take your advice from?

When I get really quiet and listen to the wisdom deep inside of me, I know for a fact that I have unique gifts and value to offer to this world. Just like every other person on this planet. Trying my best to bring the most authentic version and expression of that into this world isn’t selfish. It’s the right thing to do. The generous, noble choice.

So, whatever you find meaningful, whatever you want to create, do it – give it your best shot. If you don’t, you deprive the world of your gifts, your unique perspective. That would be like cheating on life and all the wondrous forces that put you to be on earth at this very moment.

Let’s not be selfish.